1. I can’t change or control the world around me.  But through Christ, I have a choice about how I respond when things are hard. I can choose to remind myself who I am in Him; or I can choose to try to manage life myself.
  2. I live in a broken world and I am broken.  Doing the ‘right thing’ doesn’t make the bad things stop.
  3. Ordering things on the outside – my body, my house, my diary, my finances – does not make me ordered on the inside.
  4. Disordered thoughts don’t make you a disordered person.
  5. What you think is true may not be.
  6. The most important thing is not stopping the pain.  In fact, the pain can be where God works most.
  7. There is good to be found in every day.
  8. I have felt this before and God has brought me through.
  9. My struggles are part of my story, but they don’t define me.
  10. Keeping silent can kill you.
  11. When I feel emotionally rubbish, I focus on my body and environment. This is a distraction from what’s really important.
  12. Life is frightening and unpredictable.  God is constant, stable and strong.
  13. I am not and never will be perfect.
  14. I am not and never will be beyond God’s grace.
  15. Self-care is not selfish.
  16. There are shades of grey; it’s not all or nothing.
  17. Tomorrow is too much – but it’s not here yet and when it comes, God has got it with me.
  18. You can’t move forwards by trying to go backwards.  You’ll never go back to who you were; good and bad.  But there’s good ahead and a God who is with us through the challenges too.
  19. Even this can be redeemed.


Emma Scrivener was born in Belfast, but now lives with her husband and daughter in the south east of England. She suffered from life-threatening anorexia, both as a child and as an adult. She now writes and speaks about her experiences and how the grace of Christ speaks in the darkest places. Emma blogs at emmascrivener.net and her books, ‘A New Name’ and ‘A New Day’ are published by IVP.

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